I had to drop B off on post at 3 am this morning and I really wanted to whine about having to be alone for a week. However, when I got back from dropping him off I saw a buddy of mine on Twitter's heartbreaking tweets about having to drop off her husband at the airport so he could go back to his deployment. I can't complain.
B's coming back on Sunday and we'll have at least a month together before we start the deployment. In addition, the deployment, though hard it may be, won't affect us quite like it does other couples. We spent much of the last 13 years apart, on basically opposite sides of the country. We have experience in long stretches of time apart. My heart breaks for those who have never spent more than a weekend apart or less. They've never had to worry like they do now. I honestly can't imagine that for myself. I'm used to being alone but most spouses are not. I'm used to wondering if he's ok without me. I'm used to knowing he's thinking of me so far away. But most people don't know that feeling. Most people don't know what it's like or how to cope with that sort of thing. I'm not saying that the deployment is going to be easy for me. I've gotten used to B's presence and his smell and his constant chatter. I know he'll be in harms way, but to have experience being apart versus never being apart? We have that... even with him being in harms way. I'll never forget when I didn't hear from him for a year and it was due to him almost dying in Alaska. I was so pissed for the longest I didn't hear from him and when I did, I got pissed at myself for not being more understanding.
Thinking on what some of those I chat with on a regular basis makes me realize how lucky I really have it. I'm hear for anyone that needs an outlet to vent about the deployment they're going through. I can give you advice from my experiences being so far from my hubby, though not a deployment...
An important note: all those years apart we spent, we weren't a couple, but really good friends. However, that doesn't change that he loved me (and has since he was 14) and I loved him.