Wednesday, January 28, 2009

Just Cuz It Walks & Talks Like a Duck, Doesn't Make It a Duck

After a comment that was made this weekend, and the overriding sentiment that it must be true, I'm addressing my sexuality in today's blog. I am a straight female who is somewhat masculine. I love my JNCO shorts and t-shirts and I wear bandannas on my head. Some small children said I sounded like a boy and dressed like a boy and had no boobies. Well, compared to their mom and my best friend, no I don't. But since when was a 38C small, I don't know...ANYWHO!! Well, I told the boys "Just cuz it walks like a duck and talks like a duck, doesn't make it a duck." They looked at me confused, but I think we are all adult enough on here to understand what I mean. Just because I dress like a "dyke" doesn't make me a dyke. It just makes me a masculine woman. I am not attracted to women. I do have an appreciation of the female form, but it is from an artistic perspective only...well that and boobs are just cool. I could never see myself with a woman, no matter how confused I've been over the years about who and what I am. Besides, chiks are crazy. I can at least relate with a guy.

I really don't even know why I feel I must explain this to you all. Most of you know this already, but maybe there is a someone else out there who is like me. You know, it was comments like "dyke" and lesbian that confused me growing up. If no one would have called me names in regards to my sexual identity I would have never questioned it. I knew I liked boys, I just liked their clothes too. No one seemed to understand that you could be completely straight and dress like the opposite sex. There are guys out there that do that to.

What's sad is the men that are like this get it even worse then us females. I remember being in high school and I would come home telling my mom that someone called me a "fag" and she would tell me "if it walks like a duck and talks like a duck." Well, you know it might not be a duck, it may be a chicken in clown shoes and a funny nose.


Angelika@ Purple Sage Designz said...

Hi, very interesting post. As I am about 20 years older than you I have witnessed how femininity displayed with cleavage or slinky clothes has been overrated during the past 2 decades. Looking back to my teens/twens it didn't seem so bad then.
Keep on rocking your "boy clothes"!
Thanks for the comment on my blog btw. All the best.

Jenny Georgio-who said...

I think I read this blog when you first wrote it and I didn't reply. You know its always bothered me when people judge someone without getting to know them especially based on the clothes they wear. I guess based on that logic if I eat sushi I must be Japanese! If I wear a toga I must be Greek...okay well thats a bad example because I am Greek. LOL

Wow you brought back so many memories with the JNCO jeans. I used to have a pair in the 8th & 10th grade and the legs were so freaking wide that one day I took off my pants in class (I had tights on underneath) and Daniel Brett put them on...through the pant leg! Dude those were mega wide jeans! Do they still make them? Are they still in style? I don't think I've seen those since grade 10!

Keep up the writing, I missed your blog!

PitChiK said...

JNCOs are still manufactured and I still wear them on occasion, haha. I never liked the really wide ones though. I had about 3 pair in high school and now I only have one pair (I got too "fat" for the others, lol). I'm tryin to keep up writing but it's hard with my schedule.