So, I read this article on Cracked.com about some "religious" websites they found humorous or just hard on the eyes. I ended up looking at all of them. The first site was one that the concept was awesome, the concept of the woman warrior for God, but the execution of the concept failed, and miserably. The other site that I've spent much of my evening on was this Hell Fire and Brimstone site that is one step below the insanity that is Westboro "Baptist Church". (I put that in quotes because I do not think that Westboro is Christian or a reflection of the Baptist movement at all). Most of this second site has me cracking up because of its insistence on everything being evil, but the part that gets me really going is their "women's page". (You can see for yourself here). Most of this is how feminism is evil and it's ruining women, but there was one article that I actually agreed with and I will address it now. The article was on marriage and the relationship between a woman and her husband on a Christian level. However, this wasn't one of those brow beating articles, no, this woman wrote about how as a wife, our relationship with our husband should be our number one human relationship.
How the article was written, I took it that most people aren't best friends with their husbands. I knew a long ago that I could only marry my best friend, and put off marrying mine for quite some time. I think we're better for it in the end. My putting off marriage to B was good for us. I got my party out, learned to appreciate the friend I have in B, and learned conflict resolution skills within a relationship before we were together. In addition, B was able to show me just how much he truly cares for me and is dedicated to me. Obviously, I'm going to take religion out of this topic at this point. I personally have "eccentric" beliefs that the site admin for the original site I was on would consider Satanic, and my husband is agnostic. My husband actually likes the fact that I can think for myself when it comes to spirituality and that I have really never been one to push my beliefs on others and I won't now. However, I will push my feelings on marriage on everyone. The author of the article I've been talking about made a very good point that we should be best friends with our husbands. How she said it though, you would think that most people don't do this. If this is the case though it is no wonder that divorce is so rampant, in both the Christian and other communities! A foundation of friendship between spouses is what is going to secure your relationship long into old age. Being physically attracted to your spouse is great, but when gravity starts taking its toll on the body and your body starts to fail you, if you have a relationship based in friendship you will still have a relationship. However, if you do not have that friendship, you're going to run out of things you have in common when sex is just not an option.
Another point the author made was that wives should put their husbands above their children. I completely agree with this. No, I do not have kids of my own yet. However, I find that one of the problems many married couples have is that they put their children above their relationship. This is a problem. When you neglect your relationship with your spouse due to children, you are wearing away at that foundation when the children are gone. However, it is a balancing act! As I told my mom earlier, I think that as a couple parents should put their children first, however as individuals they should put each other first. I know this sounds contradictory, but it's not. As a couple, you are one. However, you are both individuals. As an individual, you should put your spouse first. When you address your children, you should do so as a couple and they should come first to a point. If your children's activities are taking away from family time and couple time (say your kids are in so many activities that all you do as a family is go from one activity to another), then your priorities as a couple and family are off. You can disagree with me if you like, I don't care.
Ok, I think I've rambled on enough. At least I know my spelling is correct
Monday, March 7, 2011
Friday, March 4, 2011
I'm going to complain
As much as I whine, I really don't complain. Right now, I want to complain. Why is it that everyone wants you to come over to their place but they'll never come hang out with you? I'm not talking about anyone in particular. I'm just venting. I'm lonely and bored, despite having tons to do around the house. I was looking forward to going out tonight, but the plans got changed. I'm not upset about that, not at all actually, I'm upset that every fuckin time I ask anyone to come over and just visit, no one ever does. Now, if others want me to come visit do I? Usually I do unless I'm sick or I'm tired of hanging out with that person because they've been annoying me. Anywho! I just don't get why I have to beg for people to hang out with me and then no one will anyways. People say that they like me and that I'm one of the best friends they've ever had and yet I can't get people to hang out with me at my house. I'm so proud of myself for having this wonderful place, keepin it up, and NOT living with my parents. I'm not sure why people don't want to come to my house, but it does bug me. And yes, I'm cryin over here. I don't need people feeling sorry for me, but damn.
Saturday, January 22, 2011
Sable
I would have posted this sooner, but Sable's passing came so close to my trip to Texas for the Christmas holiday that I just couldn't get to it. I thought I would share Sable's last days with you. Sable went in for surgery and they found the mass was her spleen and she had a fatty liver. Biopsy came back while I was in Texas that she had lymphoma and with her passing, I think it was for the best.
The first night was easy enough, she curled up in my summer clothes, staining a white shirt, but was comfortable and slept peacefully the entire night. The next day she seemed a bit groggy, but who wouldn't after having major surgery. I made her eat and drink and she took her medicine. She curled up with me on the floor. However by day 3 she was very slow and extremely groggy. I took her in to the vet and they gave her fluids and told me to skip her pain meds. It really seemed that was it. She was only a pound and that means it's really hard to determine exactly how quickly her body would metabolize pain medication. That night though, I knew it was the end. She would only lay and hardly moved. When she did her "business" right where she was sleeping, I knew that she would not make it through the night. I held her and told her that she had to make it. Daddy wanted to see her and he would be home in a couple weeks. She just had to make it. I was crying and she kissed my cheek. She gave me this look, such a sweet look, that said to me "mommy, I tried, but this battle is just too much. Tell daddy I love him and I'm sorry that I couldn't be there when he came home. I wanted to smell his feet and steal his socks." She laid back down, after taking water and food by syringe, and went to sleep. She slept peacefully and passed in her sleep. That morning was one of the toughest mornings I've had in a long time. She's now got a nice grave and in our hearts as the sweet, loving ferret she was. She really was my sweet girl. Polar Bear is now a lonely boy but we're making the best of it. He's slowly getting used to me loving on him like I would Sable, but he still won't sit on my shoulders. Sable loved hanging out up there. RIP lil one, we all will miss you.
I would like to thank all of those who helped with the extra expense of her vet bills. You're help was amazing and I was able to cover her expenses thanks to you! Thank you, thank you, thank you!
The first night was easy enough, she curled up in my summer clothes, staining a white shirt, but was comfortable and slept peacefully the entire night. The next day she seemed a bit groggy, but who wouldn't after having major surgery. I made her eat and drink and she took her medicine. She curled up with me on the floor. However by day 3 she was very slow and extremely groggy. I took her in to the vet and they gave her fluids and told me to skip her pain meds. It really seemed that was it. She was only a pound and that means it's really hard to determine exactly how quickly her body would metabolize pain medication. That night though, I knew it was the end. She would only lay and hardly moved. When she did her "business" right where she was sleeping, I knew that she would not make it through the night. I held her and told her that she had to make it. Daddy wanted to see her and he would be home in a couple weeks. She just had to make it. I was crying and she kissed my cheek. She gave me this look, such a sweet look, that said to me "mommy, I tried, but this battle is just too much. Tell daddy I love him and I'm sorry that I couldn't be there when he came home. I wanted to smell his feet and steal his socks." She laid back down, after taking water and food by syringe, and went to sleep. She slept peacefully and passed in her sleep. That morning was one of the toughest mornings I've had in a long time. She's now got a nice grave and in our hearts as the sweet, loving ferret she was. She really was my sweet girl. Polar Bear is now a lonely boy but we're making the best of it. He's slowly getting used to me loving on him like I would Sable, but he still won't sit on my shoulders. Sable loved hanging out up there. RIP lil one, we all will miss you.
I would like to thank all of those who helped with the extra expense of her vet bills. You're help was amazing and I was able to cover her expenses thanks to you! Thank you, thank you, thank you!
Sable and the boot
Sable's grave site
Monday, December 13, 2010
Quick Update
As we approach Christmas, of course the Deployment Fairy would strike. Sable, my female roan, has a mass on her intestine. She's now not eating or drinking water. She's still running around like a mad woman when she's up, but usually it's to find the potty pad to make a lil mess. I'm really worried about her. I'll be going out of town soon too. All of this couldn't have happened at a worse time obviously. Well, that's the update. Sable goes in for surgery first thing in the morning so I'm going to bed soon.
Thursday, October 21, 2010
I am humbled
I asked some friends to read a thing I was asked to write. What I had to write isn't what this is about. No this is about the responses I got back from my friends that have me counting my blessings and knowing exactly what it is to be humbled in praise.
I often hear from people how they think that I'm cool or awesome, but those words are easily thrown around and besides, I say them all the time! However, hearing that I'm some's rock and other's hero makes me feel a way that I've never felt and that can only be described as humble. I'm not worthy of such praise. I do my best to be there for everyone and give advice that is relevant to a person's situation. I relate it to my own experiences to show why I think it will work. I don't think anything of it and never realized just how much I have apparently helped people. I don't do it for the feeling, I do it cuz I really do love helping people when I can. And the praise I've received has produced a different feeling in me.
I would usually expect a feeling of pride. A feeling that of pride based in the fact that I have helped someone and they like me for it. But this is not pride. I bow my head at the compliments and smile shyly as they comments come to me and say "this is what I'm here for." I even feel like I'm bragging by writing this. But I'm not. I've just never felt humble like this before. It's such a foreign feeling for me, that if I was a robot, my processors would short circuit. (Yes, that's a bad joke right there, you may laugh)
I often hear from people how they think that I'm cool or awesome, but those words are easily thrown around and besides, I say them all the time! However, hearing that I'm some's rock and other's hero makes me feel a way that I've never felt and that can only be described as humble. I'm not worthy of such praise. I do my best to be there for everyone and give advice that is relevant to a person's situation. I relate it to my own experiences to show why I think it will work. I don't think anything of it and never realized just how much I have apparently helped people. I don't do it for the feeling, I do it cuz I really do love helping people when I can. And the praise I've received has produced a different feeling in me.
I would usually expect a feeling of pride. A feeling that of pride based in the fact that I have helped someone and they like me for it. But this is not pride. I bow my head at the compliments and smile shyly as they comments come to me and say "this is what I'm here for." I even feel like I'm bragging by writing this. But I'm not. I've just never felt humble like this before. It's such a foreign feeling for me, that if I was a robot, my processors would short circuit. (Yes, that's a bad joke right there, you may laugh)
Thursday, October 7, 2010
Things that I Hate (cuz I'm in a bad mood & from a Facebook Status)
Things I hate: totally congested sinuses, people belittling married women without children, ear infections, not answering emails sent over social media when the other person can see you have spent massive amounts of time online since the email was sent, people with kids not wanting to be around people without kids, narrow minded bigots, hormones, zombies...
... people thinking any part of a vague status such as this one is about them and then makes a scene in the comments, people that think every comment people make on Twitter is about them, paranoid freaks, Justin Bieber, Justin Bieber fans (except Kellie), malt liquor, the Saw movies, the bubonic plague, dog farts, the smell of my neighbors' cigarette smoke in my condo, mayonnaise, sour cream, people who think their spouse going on a week long business trip is the same as my husband being deployed, passing a semi-trunk of Fountain Blvd...
... people who say they're fat when really they need to gain weight, fat people that dress like they're skinny, finding ferret poop on the carpet though I've watched their every move, politicians trying to convince people that the other side is completely wrong, marshmallows unless they're in cereal, liver and onions, mustard, people believing a known liar when they come to them with a rumor, He-Man, girlie things...
... a limp dead-fish handshake, the smell of vinegar, people who make horrific accusations about things they have no clue about and without getting all the facts, most strippers, the lack of alcohol & smokes in cartoons now, Disney remakes of classics, the spin off movies from Disney classics like the Tinkerbell movies *shudder*, people who are convinced that their parents treated one of their siblings better than them when in reality they were the one being "spoiled", pick pockets, video games with absolutely NO controls tutorials at the very beginning, self-righteous hypocrites...
... anyone who believes an eye for an eye, eye boogers, bloody noses, the sheer ignorance of the general public, main stream media (for the most part), incompetent bastards, being so far from my nieces and nephews, being so far away from my husband, the changes to all my fave toys from the 80s, jokes that go over my head, people who claim that they never get sad or upset, people who constantly tell me how strong I am, cinnamon flavored candies...
I'm sure I can add to this later
Monday, October 4, 2010
The Answer to Your Question is:
I've been getting a lot of questions about what's my secret to my weight loss.... Well folks, it's really not a secret. While I was in college, the first couple years I didn't exercise other than walking from my car to my classes and I ate fast food often. When I got to almost 190 lbs in 2008 I knew something had to be done quick as I weighed as much as my mom for the first time ever in my life. I did start off with a strict diet for the first 6 months of this journey, but I've lost most of the weight doing the little things that everyone can do to make themselves healthier and in the end make themselves lighter.
Here are the basic things to remember, and that we hear from doctors and the news repeatedly:
1) drink WATER! Most people don't drink anywhere near enough and they consume beverages such as soda in abundance. Diet soda doesn't help as the sweet flavor triggers things in your brain to make you crave REAL sugar and many people who drink diet soda end up overeating. In addition, the carbonation in soda makes you bloated and the high sodium of all sodas make you retain water. Water helps curb cravings and usually when you feel hungry it's because you're actually dehydrated. Drink 8-16 oz of water and if after that you're still hungry, eat something light.
2) Don't eat meat at every meal! I know, it sounds bizarre. However, most people eat too much meat and it's usually heavily processed. If you substitute a vegan meat substitute for at least one meal a day, you will see immediate results, usually in how you overall feel. I recommend trying the Morning Star "Chik'n" Nuggets or using their "crumblers" as a substitute for ground meat in things like hamburger helpers or in tacos. You just season it like you would hamburger meat.
3) Eat your veggies & fruit! They're not only good for you, but they contain water and are usually low calorie. Just make sure you don't slather them in butter or cheese as that counteracts the nutritional value of the veggies. Broccoli with a vegan cheese substitute is actually a good option and tastes great too!
4) Move! Even if you don't have time to do an actual workout, move. I will do things like overhand claps, jumping jacks, crunches, or walking or running up and down the stairs at random times. If you take a few minutes periodically through out the day, you end up exercising more than if you wanted to make it to the gym and then don't show up cuz you're tired after a long day.
5) Take a moment to just breath! Take a moment to just stretch. Whether it's just trying to touch your toes or sitting down with legs extended and reaching in front of you, just stretch those muscles and you will feel much better & refreshed. Being stressed out can cause you to hold onto unwanted weight since it produces cortisol, a hormone, that can cause you to hold onto weight and not digest food properly. When we become overly stressed, our bodies divert blood away from our digestive system to allow us to deal with the situation at hand. This causes the body to not process nutrients properly and can cause weight gain.
So really, these aren't secrets. They've been said repeatedly on the news, by tv doctors, and on the internet. It's all about life style changes. I have had only 3 sodas in the last month and I haven't had a donut since like March if not February. I do have a weakness for ice cream, and it can be enjoyed, I just do so in smaller amounts. I'd be lying if I said I don't enjoy a cheeseburger at McDonald's on occasion and will eat some of my fave foods. The key is moderation and to know they are treats. I did totally pig out on pizza last weekend and felt bloated and yucky afterwards, but boy was it good! But did I return to my old eating habits I had in college? No, Monday I went back to my normal eating habits and will remember that pizza with great fondness and may order another one in a month or so. Our favorite guilty food pleasures should be enjoyed seldom. This way they can really be enjoyed and savored.... Mmmmm now I want some fried chicken, and not the vegan variety or the better for you Chick-fil-a stuff either, good ol' fashion greasy fried chicken LOL... I'll just day dream about it cuz I can't splurge for awhile :)
Here are the basic things to remember, and that we hear from doctors and the news repeatedly:
1) drink WATER! Most people don't drink anywhere near enough and they consume beverages such as soda in abundance. Diet soda doesn't help as the sweet flavor triggers things in your brain to make you crave REAL sugar and many people who drink diet soda end up overeating. In addition, the carbonation in soda makes you bloated and the high sodium of all sodas make you retain water. Water helps curb cravings and usually when you feel hungry it's because you're actually dehydrated. Drink 8-16 oz of water and if after that you're still hungry, eat something light.
2) Don't eat meat at every meal! I know, it sounds bizarre. However, most people eat too much meat and it's usually heavily processed. If you substitute a vegan meat substitute for at least one meal a day, you will see immediate results, usually in how you overall feel. I recommend trying the Morning Star "Chik'n" Nuggets or using their "crumblers" as a substitute for ground meat in things like hamburger helpers or in tacos. You just season it like you would hamburger meat.
3) Eat your veggies & fruit! They're not only good for you, but they contain water and are usually low calorie. Just make sure you don't slather them in butter or cheese as that counteracts the nutritional value of the veggies. Broccoli with a vegan cheese substitute is actually a good option and tastes great too!
4) Move! Even if you don't have time to do an actual workout, move. I will do things like overhand claps, jumping jacks, crunches, or walking or running up and down the stairs at random times. If you take a few minutes periodically through out the day, you end up exercising more than if you wanted to make it to the gym and then don't show up cuz you're tired after a long day.
5) Take a moment to just breath! Take a moment to just stretch. Whether it's just trying to touch your toes or sitting down with legs extended and reaching in front of you, just stretch those muscles and you will feel much better & refreshed. Being stressed out can cause you to hold onto unwanted weight since it produces cortisol, a hormone, that can cause you to hold onto weight and not digest food properly. When we become overly stressed, our bodies divert blood away from our digestive system to allow us to deal with the situation at hand. This causes the body to not process nutrients properly and can cause weight gain.
So really, these aren't secrets. They've been said repeatedly on the news, by tv doctors, and on the internet. It's all about life style changes. I have had only 3 sodas in the last month and I haven't had a donut since like March if not February. I do have a weakness for ice cream, and it can be enjoyed, I just do so in smaller amounts. I'd be lying if I said I don't enjoy a cheeseburger at McDonald's on occasion and will eat some of my fave foods. The key is moderation and to know they are treats. I did totally pig out on pizza last weekend and felt bloated and yucky afterwards, but boy was it good! But did I return to my old eating habits I had in college? No, Monday I went back to my normal eating habits and will remember that pizza with great fondness and may order another one in a month or so. Our favorite guilty food pleasures should be enjoyed seldom. This way they can really be enjoyed and savored.... Mmmmm now I want some fried chicken, and not the vegan variety or the better for you Chick-fil-a stuff either, good ol' fashion greasy fried chicken LOL... I'll just day dream about it cuz I can't splurge for awhile :)
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